Every October, as the air turns crisp and the nights grow longer, a familiar excitement takes hold across the internet. It’s Kinktober, the month dedicated to lifting the veil on sexual curiosity, normalizing desires, and exploring the full spectrum of erotic imagination.

This year, we wanted to go beyond abstract fantasies. We turned the mic over to our ONE® Momentum® community for a special challenge: "Finish the Fantasy."

TL;DR Key Takeaways:

• This Kinktober, the ONE® Momentum® community shared the fantasies they wanted to explore, from anal play and threesomes to male sex toys, outdoor intimacy, and new kinks.

• Community responses revealed a common trend: confidence begins with open communication, enthusiastic consent, and taking things at your own pace.

• Discover what the community had to say and find inspiration for taking your own first step.

We asked three simple, revealing questions:

1. I’ve always wanted to try _________.

2. I’d feel more confident trying if _________.

3. My first step to making it happen would be _________.

The responses were overwhelmingly honest, vulnerable, and deeply human. From intimate bedroom additions to bold outdoor adventures, the ONE® communities submissions revealed a passionate community eager to expand their horizons this fall.

Anal Play & Double Penetration: Unlocking New Sensations 

Anal exploration and double penetration (DP) topped the charts as two of the most requested experiences in our survey. Whether it's adding toys, trying pegged play, or attempting full double penetration, the curiosity around anal pleasure is stronger than ever.

What our community said:

• The Fantasy: "I've always wanted to try anal play / double penetration."
  

• The Bridge: "I’d feel more confident if I knew my partner was open to it, or if I had experience with stretching and toy play first."
  

• The First Step: "Doing research, using butt plugs or beads to practice, and starting with lots of foreplay and relaxation."

How to finish the fantasy:

For anyone curious about anal play, preparation can make a meaningful difference in comfort and confidence. Taking your time, communicating openly with your partner, and using plenty of lubricant can help make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable. Because the anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication, choosing the right lubricant is an essential part of preparation.

There’s no need to rush. Take time for foreplay and relaxation, and gradually explore what feels comfortable. If you’re using anal toys, choose products specifically designed for anal use, start with a size that feels manageable, and always use toys with a flared base to help prevent them from slipping inside.

Lubrication is essential for anal play because it helps reduce friction and discomfort. High-quality water-based or silicone-based lubricants can provide the glide needed for a smoother experience.

For a long-lasting, silky-smooth feel, we recommend ONE® Move® Silicone Personal Lubricant. Its silicone-based formula provides lasting lubrication to help reduce friction during intimate play.

Before use, check the product label for compatibility with your condoms and toys. Silicone-based lubricants may not be suitable for all silicone toys, so always follow the manufacturer’s recommendations.

The takeaway? There's no need to rush into a fantasy. Start with curiosity, communicate openly, and prioritize comfort, consent, and safety. With the right preparation and lubrication, you can explore at your own pace and focus on what feels good for everyone involved.

Threesomes & Group Dynamic Dreams

Threesomes remain one of the most enduring sexual fantasies. But our community’s responses suggest that exploring this desire is often less about spontaneity and more about trust, emotional security, and open communication.

What our community said:

• The Fantasy: "I’ve always wanted to try a threesome."
  

• The Bridge: "I’d feel more confident if it meant being direct, polite, and having complete trust with my partner."
  

• The First Step: "Honest and open communication with my spouse/partner. Nothing goes down without enthusiasm and consent."

How to finish the fantasy:

Exploring group play or intimacy starts with a strong foundation of trust, security and clear communication. Before involving another person, discuss expectations, boundaries, safer sex practices, and how you’ll check in with each other emotionally throughout the experience.

Also make consent a priority. Everyone involved should feel comfortable, respected, and genuinely enthusiastic about participating. Consent should be freely given, ongoing, and never assumed. A threesome should be something everyone involved wants to explore, not a way to fix underlying relationship issues or meet unspoken expectations.

There’s no need to jump straight into a physical experience. Consider exploring erotic media together, attending lifestyle events, or having honest conversations about fantasies and boundaries. These steps can help you understand each other’s comfort levels and decide whether taking things further feels right for everyone.

A fulfilling group experience begins long before anyone enters the bedroom. Build trust, communicate openly, and give everyone the freedom to express their desires and boundaries without pressure. The goal isn’t to simply make the fantasy happen; it's to explore it in a way that is safe, consensual, respectful and enjoyable for everyone involved. 

Breaking the Stigma Around Male Toys & Solo Gear

One of the most meaningful conversations sparked by our Kinktober challenge was the need to challenge the stigma surrounding male sex toys, including masturbation sleeves and other solo pleasure products. Several community members expressed frustration with the perception that penis-focused toys are only for people who are single or struggling to find partners.

What our community said:

• The Fantasy: "I’ve always wanted to try a masturbation sleeve during partner play."
  

• The Bridge: "I’d feel more confident if there wasn't a social stigma that male sex toys are only for single people or 'incels.'"
  

• The First Step: "Encouraging penis-focused toys into partner play and marketing them around shared enjoyment rather than replacement."

How to finish the fantasy:

Sex toys designed for solo use don’t have to stay solo. They can be part of a shared experience, offering new sensations and opportunities for couples to discover what they enjoy together. 

One thing to remember is a sex toy isn’t competition for a partner. It’s another way to explore pleasure, introducing different textures, sensations, and stimulation into intimate moments. Using a toy doesn’t diminish connection; it can create new opportunities for communication and discovery. 

Masturbation sleeves and vibrating penis rings can be incorporated into foreplay or partnered sex, depending on everyone’s preferences. Talk about what interests you both, explore at your own pace, and treat the experience as a chance to discover something new together. Male sex toys deserve a place in conversations about pleasure without shame or stereotypes.

Whether used solo or with a partner, they’re simply another option for exploring sexuality. By shifting the conversation from replacement to shared enjoyment, we can make intimacy more open, playful, and inclusive.

Al Fresco Thrills: Outdoor, Pool, and Car Sex

From secluded camping trips to private hot tubs, outdoor intimacy and the thrill of a change of scenery emerged as popular favorites during our Kinktober challenge.

What our community said:

• The Fantasy: "I’ve always wanted to try outdoor sex, car sex, or hot tub intimacy."
  

• The Bridge: "I’d feel more confident if I knew nobody would interrupt us and there was guaranteed privacy."
  

• The First Step: "Finding a secluded camping location off the beaten path, or planning a trip to a private hot spring."

How to finish the fantasy:

The appeal of outdoor intimacy often lies in the combination of adventure, novelty, and romance. But the best experiences start with thoughtful planning, respect for others, and a setting where everyone can feel comfortable and secure.

Consider private glamping sites, secluded campsites that permit intimate activity, or accommodations with enclosed hot tubs. If visiting a hot spring or pool, check the property's rules and stick to designated private areas. Remember that remote doesn't always mean private, so plan accordingly.

If exploring intimacy in a vehicle, prioritize a legal, private location away from public roads and pedestrian traffic. Plan for adequate space, comfortable positioning, and ventilation, and make sure the vehicle is safely parked. Sunshades may help with privacy, but they don't guarantee that others can't see inside.

A little adventure can bring a fresh sense of excitement to your intimate life. Whether you're planning a romantic camping getaway, enjoying a private hot tub, or exploring intimacy in a parked car, prioritize consent, privacy, comfort, and local rules. The goal is to enjoy the thrill of something different without compromising anyone's safety or boundaries.

Specific Kinks & Unique Dynamics: Femdom, Yoga Poses, and More

Our community embraced a range of personal curiosities during Kinktober, reminding us that intimacy looks different for everyone. From gentle female domination (Femdom) to incorporating yoga-inspired movement and exploring new relationship dynamics, these interests show that there’s no single way to discover what feels right.

What our community said:

• "I’ve always wanted to try female domination (Femdom), but without physical pain or BDSM bondage. I want to find a gentle, empowering dynamic."
  

• "I want to try incorporating yoga poses before and during sex to boost flexibility and partner connection."

• "I want to try new kinks, but I’d feel more confident if my partner took the initiative or brought it up first!"

Exploring a new kink or dynamic doesn't have to mean embracing every aspect of a particular practice. The key is to tailor the experience to individual preferences, communicate openly, and establish boundaries before getting started.

BDSM and kink encompass a wide range of experiences. If you're curious about Femdom without pain or bondage, consider exploring verbal dominance, gentle commands, role play, or consensual power exchange. Discuss boundaries and expectations beforehand, and agree on a way to pause or stop the experience at any time.

Make sure movement is a part of your intimacy routine. Gentle yoga inspired stretches can be a relaxing way to connect before intimacy. Choose movements that feel comfortable for both partners, avoid forcing stretches or pushing joints beyond their natural range, and adjust positions to suit your individual flexibility and mobility.

If you want your partner to take the lead, consider sharing that preference outside the bedroom. Talk about the ideas you're curious about and what would help you feel comfortable. You can also agree to take turns suggesting new experiences, making exploration feel collaborative rather than pressured.

There’s no right or wrong way to explore a kink or discover a new dynamic. Whether you're interested in gentle power exchange, movement inspired intimacy, or simply trying something different with your partner, start with honest communication, mutual consent, and a willingness to learn together. The most rewarding experiences are those that respect everyone's comfort, curiosity, and boundaries.

The Ultimate Takeaway: Communication is the Real Gateway

Looking across all of our community responses—whether the fantasy was anal exploration, group play, outdoor adventures, or new toys—one central theme stood out above everything else:

The bridge between wanting to try something and actually making it happen is open, enthusiastic, and non-judgmental communication.

Many users noted that they were waiting for their partner to take the lead, or held back out of fear of making conversations awkward (especially around topics like condom safety or kink preferences).

3 Ways to Take the First Step Today:

1. Try a "Yes / No / Maybe" List: Rather than introducing a specific fantasy out of the blue, explore a kink or intimacy questionnaire together. It's a low pressure way to discover shared interests, understand each other's boundaries, and spark conversations you might not otherwise have.
   

2. Make low pressure conversations the norm. Talk about fantasies outside the bedroom, whether you're out for a walk, taking a drive, or enjoying coffee together. A relaxed setting can make it easier to share openly without the expectation that a conversation has to lead to immediate physical action.

3. Lead with curiosity, not expectations. Open ended questions can make new topics feel more approachable. Try something like, “I read an interesting blog about the Kinktober survey results today. Have you ever thought about trying something like that?” Give your partner room to share their thoughts, ask questions, or say they're not interested.

What’s in Your Toy Box This Kinktober?

Your fantasies are normal and are a natural part of exploring your sexuality, and there's no need to feel ashamed of being curious. Whether you're exploring solo, introducing a rose toy into partnered play, or planning a secluded getaway under the stars, taking that first step starts with curiosity, communication, and connection.

Ready to Explore More? Join the ONE® Community

Exploring desires, busting myths, and peeling back the layers of curiosity during Kinktober is all about open minds and shared connection. That curiosity doesn't have to end with October and normalizing safer sex is always a team effort.

If you loved this post, you’re already part of the vibe! With ONE® Momentum®, our community loyalty program, you can complete fun challenges, join ongoing sexual wellness conversations, and earn points to redeem for free condoms, lube, and exclusive swag.

Whether you want to earn rewards through Momentum, champion sex-positive education on your campus, or express your creativity, check out all the ways to plug into ONE® Community Programs below:

• ONE® College Ambassadors: Passionate about peer-led education? Join student leaders across the country distributing free supplies, hosting events, and making campus sex ed stigma-free. Spring 2027 applications are now open until January 4th 2027! Interested in joining? Explore the program to learn more.
  
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• Team ONE®: Are you in an intramural, campus, or other social sports club? Let ONE® be your ultimate assist. Teams receive ONE® Condom cases with their logo that they can hand out at events. Learn more on our website.
  

• ONE® Project Condom: Host a condom fashion show featuring garments and accessories crafted entirely from condoms. Spark meaningful conversations in your community, raise awareness about a cause close to your heart, and promote condom education. Learn more about Project Condom or host your own condom fashion show in your community!

• Art of ONE®: ONE® is known for its cheeky, round condom wrapper designs featuring art from designers from around the world. Are you the next Rembrandt of Rubber? Submit a condom wrapper design, such as a digital design, a photo of your pet, a painting, etc. Submissions are accepted on a rolling basis. If your design is selected, you’ll receive payment and free condoms featuring your design. Interested in submitting your portfolio instead? We’re always looking to build our network of freelance creatives to work with from design to photography and more.